Yesterday, I watched a podcast, and the main focus was economics/finance...but the guy got onto the topic of dating, and if you should develop a relationship with a heavily-in-debt person.
Generally, the question is....if you were around age 25-to-30....having met up with a gal graduate of some college and working, would it be a no-go situation if you figured out her debt is $80,000 (and it's not a house debt)?
Today versus 1980s? That's really the discussion.
I might have had two or three filters in the 1980s for dating. In the 2024 era....if I were 25....there's going to be twenty-odd filters.
Yeah, I'm likely crossing off some gal with a college debt of $50,000 or more.
Yeah, I'm likely crossing off the extreme view of reality gal.
Yeah, I'm crossing off someone who bought a $75,000 new car last year, and has a 8-year payment plan.
Yeah, I'm crossing off the gal who spends four hours a day on social media.
This brings me the consequence....where there might be twenty-million men and women in America today who are ill-prepared for any relationship. They'd be better off to say....'hook-ups' are the way to go and just prepare never to have long-term relationships.
More guys than women on this path? Yeah, it might be that way....but no one is collecting this type of data to tell a story.
Crossing off, never married with several children from different relationships.
ReplyDeleteNeck tattoos.
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Pierced eyebrows.
Thumb ring, toe rings, multiple 'zipper' earrings.
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1994, my buddy's nice son married a looker.
Becky came to the wedding with eighty grand (80,000 fedbux) in unsecured debts.
My first thought -- 'idjit'.
Working two jobs plus his Weekend Warrior obligation, nice son/husband paid off her debt in only four years.
And she promptly dumped him.
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These days, at about 50yo, he lives alone with a dog.
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I automatically distrusted Becky, she grimaced a mouth smile, but the attempt at friendliness never reached her eyes.