Ten Things You Can Do With Mentally Unwell People

 First, try to avoid them in general (shun is a good phrase to use).

Second, if forced into engaging...try to be humble, kind and limited on response (just nodding your head...like you hear what they are saying).  Don't be agreeable or say 'that makes sense'.

Third, ask where they got such-and-such idea.  

Fourth, suggest some other person as better at dealing with these comments/ideas. Avoid dumping them on some 70-year-old or older guy....they will have the least amount of patience.  

Fifth, get them in a low stress environment (like a smoking 'pit', or picnic table setting, or a parking lot).  Bars....are not a good idea.

Sixth, people want to share their woes/sufferings, and just want 30 minutes of your silence to hear their problem.  Maybe your silence is enough to reset their pattern.

Seventh, fear or guilt usually fit into most mentally unwell 'consumers'.  'Bless' them in some way...at the conclusion....to relieve the fear or guilt.  (Yeah, it's basically what some Catholic priest would do).

Eighth, most mentally unwell folks fear being 'alone'.  So convey that they are in good company....saying it multiple times....in different ways.

Ninth, some mentally unwell people have a 30-minute story to tell...you might want to convey in the first 60 seconds....you got eight minutes to tell the 30-minute story.....get to the finer points...real quick. 

Tenth, the schizophrenia folks need real doctors....real medication.  Once you size up that they fall into this category....don't BS around and act as some authority.  If the gal sees 6 ft tall demons or werewolves.....it's best to disengage and avoid any conversation.  

Red Flag Discussion

 I watched a podcast today, which got into the 'red-flag' business of relationships, and noted that a fair amount of women who said that guys who listened to Joe Rogan....were in a red-flag situation.

I sat and pondered upon it.

In 1978 (1st year of the Air Force).....I probably had no more than three red-flags (pack-a-day-smoker, serious whiskey drinker, or some gal with obvious mental health problems...were all red-flags).

Today?  If I had to go out on some date....there would be some list sixty-odd red-flags.  Just getting into serious NCAA football chatter would be a red-flag.  Some 4-time divorcee with history....would be a red-flag. Just having 10 minutes a day of religious chatter...would probably be a red-flag.

Women who have a show-room for their living room (white carpets, dust collector trophies)?  Red-flag.

Women who want to know your credit history or voting habits?  Red-flag.

Women who want to be assured of your ballroom dancing skills?  Red-flag.

Women who talk about ex-husband #1, #2 and #3....at least an hour out of the day?  Red-flag.

Women who want to know right off the bat your physical fitness club membership and the amount of work-out?  Red-flag.

Women who have the top three buttons on their blouse undone on date number one?  Red-flag.

Women who talk continually of their wine consumption but can't define sweetness, body, acidity or aroma? Red-flag.

The problem is once you get over sixty....you filter out things to a maximum level.