Friday, 23 October 2009

It Just Is

I have this guy who comes over once a month to update some communications equipment. He's like me....retired Air Force....a contractor....from Bama.

This week, he came over and we were talking while he was doing his updates. In the midst of this, the topic of his military assistant came up. When he goes on leave or on training trips.....his assistant is a young female NCO. I was always impressed on how bright she was and very capable. She's 27 and we had talked at the beginning of the year....she was progressing on her degree and would be finished shortly. She was single and never married.

So my associate updated me....his assistant is now pregnant....from some Army guy who who was newly divorced. No intention of marrying the guy, and her priority now was to rotate out at the end of this year to a new assignment (yet to be named).

I was standing....probably old-fashioned in some sense....but just shaking my head. Here was a very intelligent and capable gal....past the open-market period of potential guys.....and accepting of this situation. If you aren't married by age 22, generally....you start to lose a huge group of guys who are potential marriage partners. At least, that's the impression these days.

Something is wrong here but it's difficult to say the precise problem. Socially, we are acceptable to just about anything now....which makes a problem. Single-parent families are working themselves up to be the norm. And guys aren't helping the situation by being dimwits at relationships or having huge personal issues like bankruptcy, alcohol, or drugs by age 35.

Course, it may that I'm just turning old and not getting the jest of these magnificent changes in society. Well....I hope not.